That was the title of my message last Sunday. I shared in my introduction that a friend saw this title announced on the fresh life website ahead of time and was shocked. I gotta admit it’s not really your average Sunday sermon title, in fact it sounds more like a movie that would play on HBO than a topic to talk about in church. He quickly fired me off an email—that said—“Make up sex?” Wondering, what many people in church probably thought when they opened up their bulletins, how is this going to work exactly? But the reality is, this married couple had a fight and then resolved the conflict, in the last chapter, and now I am teaching the following chapter where they happen to make love. Seemed pretty self-explanatory, if you have read Song of Solomon 7, so I wrote back—”What else do you call sexual intimacy after a fight?” He wrote back one word: UNLIKELY.
I thought that was clever. But the truth is one of the perks of fighting (fairly) in marriage does happen to be making up, though that shouldn’t be incentive to pick a fight on purpose! We not only discussed make-up sex in particular but spoke about sex in marriage in general and emphasized how to keep the passion going as time passes. It’s interesting because there are two sex chapters in the Song of Solomon, one is the Wedding Night and the other is the one we studied on Sunday where they have been married for a while. I think we’d all expect the honeymoon to be pretty steamy, but to be honest between the two I was far more embarrassed teaching this week. At one point during the first service I actually had to turn my back on the audience for a moment to regain my composure because I couldn’t even believe some of the verses I was reading.
Here is the text: Song of Solomon 7:1-10 How beautiful are your feet in sandals, O prince’s daughter! The curves of your thighs are like jewels, The work of the hands of a skillful workman. Your navel is a rounded goblet; It lacks no blended beverage. Your waist is a heap of wheat Set about with lilies. Your two breasts are like two fawns, Twins of a gazelle. Your neck is like an ivory tower, Your eyes like the pools in Heshbon By the gate of Bath Rabbim. Your nose is like the tower of Lebanon Which looks toward Damascus. Your head crowns you like Mount Carmel, And the hair of your head is like purple; A king is held captive by your tresses. How fair and how pleasant you are, O love, with your delights! This stature of yours is like a palm tree, And your breasts like its clusters. I said, “I will go up to the palm tree, I will take hold of its branches.” Let now your breasts be like clusters of the vine, The fragrance of your breath like apples, And the roof of your mouth like the best wine. The wine goes down smoothly for my beloved, Moving gently the lips of sleepers. I am my beloved’s, And his desire is toward me.
Needless to say, this couple had a pretty rocking sex life. Far from boring, their love life only got better with time. This, however, doesn’t come easily, and it will not happen on it’s own. Like tending a fire—can’t ignore it. You must Stoke the fires of passion in your relationship constantly or they will go out. If you aren’t experiencing this kind of satisfying sex in your marriage—you need to plant seeds of kindness and affirmation to reap these results it won’t happen on accident. This Sunday I am going to be talking about weekend get-aways, one very practical and intentional step you can take to rekindle things and keep your marriage full of life.
To hear the make up sex message click here, or you can watch it by clicking here. Make sure to tune in Sunday for one of the last three Song of Solomon messages.